Sunday, July 24, 2016
Ann and Ericha, incognito
There's something mysteriously appealing about using an assumed name. I can't exactly describe it, but it sort of feels like you're living on the edge, taking a risk. Okay, it's possible this feeling is just the product of my otherwise excruciatingly boring life, but whatever.
Oftentimes, when Shulamith and I are in public places where strangers need to know our names, people whom we will never see again, we assume different names just to make things easier. Shulamith's name is just plain difficult. It's beautiful (well, except when people try to shorten it....grrrr!), but it's super hard because no one has ever heard of it. My name isn't nearly as challenging, but most people aren't used to "Terri" and "Ann" together, so they only hear the "Terri' part, and I really, really don't like to be called "Terri." So when we are ordering food or getting pedicures, etc., we usually use our middle names and say we are Ann and Ericha.
For some reason, this made yesterday even more fun. You see, yesterday was also a make-believe day; it was Mothers Day, incognito. Ever since Shulamith has been a mother (four years), we have celebrated together by taking a day for ourselves and doing fun, girl things, usually the day before Mothers Day. But this past May, she was recovering from her miscarriage and its complications, and the day just went by. We celebrated quietly with family, but without our regular "girls only" event.
We vowed we would have it, though, and yesterday was the day!
There were no movies we wanted to see, so we started with massages. My four youngest kids had given me a gift card back on the actual Mothers Day, which I saved for this occasion. It might have been the best massage I've ever had. So relaxing. My ever-present anxiety all but disappeared for an hour, and every time the massage therapist called me "Ann," I felt like I was in a different time and place, temporarily separated from my real life.
In our calm, relaxed state, we next went to one of our favorite restaurants, The Melting Pot. Bring on the Swiss fondue, followed by chocolate with caramel and candied pecans, into which we dipped brownies, blondies, pound cake, rice crispy treats, and coconut-covered marshmallows. I also ate strawberries and bananas with the chocolate sauce drizzled over; Shulamith doesn't let me dip fruit in the fondue pot, fearing it will contaminate the chocolate.
So it might have been two months late, but Mothers Day 2016 was a true success. Ann and Ericha, incognito.
Tuesday, July 19, 2016
Once upon a time, I was a missionary.
Okay, not really.
I was just a poser.
But it was still so much fun.
Three years ago, for about a year, we had sister missionaries serving our ward. Many lovely girls were transferred in and out during that year, but three were special. They became more than just missionaries; they became my friends. Their names are Luisa Faumuina, Fernanda Gonzalez, and Laura Peralta, and they were from Hawaii, Chile, and Tennessee, respectively.
I got to go out with them often and pretend to be a missionary, sometimes several times a week, and I loved every second of it: Standing outside in sub-freezing temperatures on various porches, praying someone would let us in; rejoicing when someone actually did let us in; watching these sisters teach and testify with such strength and conviction; seeing lives change.
All too soon, these three were transferred out of our ward, and one by one, they completed their missions and returned home with honor. And not long after, the sisters serving our ward were replaced with Elders, and so it is to this day. I no longer get to go.
But these three girls made a lasting impression on my heart. And today.....today...... I got to hang out with two of them. Fernanda is still in Chile, but Louisa and Laura are right here in Utah, preparing to attend UVU. Today is Laura's birthday, and she chose to celebrate by attending the Provo City Temple with Luisa and me. Just look at me trying to adjust to calling them by their first names! Ha!
I can't tell you how wonderful it was to see these two again, after so long. We hugged and hugged and even cried a little.
It was a lovely temple session; goodness this temple is beautiful! It looks like a castle. I'm so glad these two are both back in Utah because now we can get together whenever we want. And I don't even have to get them home by 9:30.
I missed you, Sister Gonzalez. Wait, no, I can do this: Fernanda. I wish you could have been with us.
Once upon a time, I was a missionary.
Okay, not really.
I was just a poser.
But maybe someday? Maybe someday I will be one for real.
I was just a poser.
But it was still so much fun.
Three years ago, for about a year, we had sister missionaries serving our ward. Many lovely girls were transferred in and out during that year, but three were special. They became more than just missionaries; they became my friends. Their names are Luisa Faumuina, Fernanda Gonzalez, and Laura Peralta, and they were from Hawaii, Chile, and Tennessee, respectively.
I got to go out with them often and pretend to be a missionary, sometimes several times a week, and I loved every second of it: Standing outside in sub-freezing temperatures on various porches, praying someone would let us in; rejoicing when someone actually did let us in; watching these sisters teach and testify with such strength and conviction; seeing lives change.
All too soon, these three were transferred out of our ward, and one by one, they completed their missions and returned home with honor. And not long after, the sisters serving our ward were replaced with Elders, and so it is to this day. I no longer get to go.
But these three girls made a lasting impression on my heart. And today.....today...... I got to hang out with two of them. Fernanda is still in Chile, but Louisa and Laura are right here in Utah, preparing to attend UVU. Today is Laura's birthday, and she chose to celebrate by attending the Provo City Temple with Luisa and me. Just look at me trying to adjust to calling them by their first names! Ha!
I can't tell you how wonderful it was to see these two again, after so long. We hugged and hugged and even cried a little.
It was a lovely temple session; goodness this temple is beautiful! It looks like a castle. I'm so glad these two are both back in Utah because now we can get together whenever we want. And I don't even have to get them home by 9:30.
I missed you, Sister Gonzalez. Wait, no, I can do this: Fernanda. I wish you could have been with us.
Once upon a time, I was a missionary.
Okay, not really.
I was just a poser.
But maybe someday? Maybe someday I will be one for real.
Sunday, July 10, 2016
Thank you, Lindsey and Eli and Elders Quorum President, for the impetus to write today!
Three very separate events happened recently to serve as the impetus for this post. First, my friend Lindsey asked me to edit an essay she wrote for one of her college classes. I'm always delighted to serve in this way because let's face it: when your skill set is as woefully limited as mine is, you don't get that many opportunities to serve. No one wants me cooking. Or singing. Or crafting. Or painting. Or gardening. Or playing games. I could go on. I won't. But when a close friend or family member asks me to edit something, yep, I'm all over it.
Second, yesterday I had the rare opportunity to watch Eli's choir, "From the Heart," sing at two nursing homes, a children's hospital, and finally at a fireside at a nearby church. Let's just say days don't get much more perfect.
Third, in Sacrament Meeting today, our Elders Quorum President spoke about the benefits of holding regular Family Home Evening (a program in our church where families are encouraged to gather weekly to study, pray, eat good food, and play!).
So how are these three events connected? Hopefully by the end, that will become clear. Let me begin with a disclaimer. This blog is by definition a "Mommy blog." A friend once said "You can't swing a dead cat without hitting a mommy blogger," and yes, I am just another one of the hundreds. I love to write about my family and my role as mother to the five best kids in the world. Who wouldn't? Occasionally, though, I write on other topics, sometimes politics (my other passion), sometimes topics related to my church.
This is one of those times. So if church isn't your deal, you might want to skip this post and join me again next time. I won't be mad.
Lindsey's essay was a personal narrative about how she came to gain her own testimony of the gospel. I knew the story already, but reading it in essay form gave it life. I felt what she had felt all those years ago. It reminded me of a similar story in our family, a story of a little boy, faith, and a prayer answered.
The little boy was our Eli, who was six years old. He was hands down our most spirited kid. After three relatively calm children, his energy and passion rocked our world in ways we had never imagined. This morning, when the Elders Quorum President spoke of his memories of FHE in his home as a child, he said, "It starts with a prayer and ends with somebody crying." Yep, that was exactly the case in our family although the one left crying was always me, clueless as to how to get Eli to settle down and listen, while trying to keep two young teenagers interested as they rolled their eyes as if to say "Why can't you control this kid, so we can get this over with?"
Even so, that six-year-old little boy was in the process of developing a faith, pure and simple, step by step. And one step happened as he learned about the power of prayer, just like Lindsey did while camping on a mountain. Back then, we lived in a house whose backyard came up against another family's, with no fence, and in that family, the oldest child was a boy right in between Isaiah and Eli in age. The three were fast and furious friends who were together more than they were apart.
One of their favorite things to do was to play video-games with a hand-held unit called a Nintendo Game Boy. Games for this console were tiny, 2-inch, flat squares. Seriously, the things were practically begging to be lost. The cost of each tiny square? Around $50, depending on the game. Isaiah and Eli traded games back and forth with Jordan, yes, I know, a very bad idea! You guessed it; they lost one of Jordan's games. Ugh! It became a family affair to find that tiny piece of plastic because with a single income and four little kids plus one on the way, we clearly did not have the resources to replace Jordan's $50 game.
We searched. Everywhere. We rummaged through drawers. We crawled around the floor on hands and knees. We moved furniture and swept underneath. No luck. Emotions were high and contention thick. And right in the middle of all that strife, our little Eli declared, "We need to have a family prayer." Gerald turned to me, out of earshot of the kids, and whispered, "I don't know about you, but I don't have that kind of faith."
"Me either," I replied, "but if our little boy wants to have a family prayer, that is exactly what we will do." In a quiet voice (he was rarely quiet), Eli offered a simple plea to his Heavenly Father to please help us find Jordan's game." We all said "Amen," opened our eyes, and not three feet from where I was standing, right in the middle of the floor in plain sight, was that game. And so began a young child's unwavering testimony of prayer.
Eli would go on to offer many more prayers in the 17 years that followed, and while most would not be answered as instantly as that one was, his testimony of prayer would sustain him through whatever came. He would go on to dedicate two years of his life in the deep south and endure sweltering heat, threat of tornadoes, and daily rejection in order to share with others the truth he knows so well and loves so much. He would go on to seek an eternal companion, who would go with him to the Holy Temple to make covenants with God and begin to build an eternal family of his own.
And he would go on to share the beautiful voice God gave him to bless others through song. He would sing for the elderly and for sick children. And for me.
Thank you, Lindsey, for your story of faith that touched my heart and stirred my memories. Thank you, Elders Quorum President, for your honest portrayal of the challenge and the joy of Family Home Evening. And thank you, Eli, for being you.
Second, yesterday I had the rare opportunity to watch Eli's choir, "From the Heart," sing at two nursing homes, a children's hospital, and finally at a fireside at a nearby church. Let's just say days don't get much more perfect.
Third, in Sacrament Meeting today, our Elders Quorum President spoke about the benefits of holding regular Family Home Evening (a program in our church where families are encouraged to gather weekly to study, pray, eat good food, and play!).
So how are these three events connected? Hopefully by the end, that will become clear. Let me begin with a disclaimer. This blog is by definition a "Mommy blog." A friend once said "You can't swing a dead cat without hitting a mommy blogger," and yes, I am just another one of the hundreds. I love to write about my family and my role as mother to the five best kids in the world. Who wouldn't? Occasionally, though, I write on other topics, sometimes politics (my other passion), sometimes topics related to my church.
This is one of those times. So if church isn't your deal, you might want to skip this post and join me again next time. I won't be mad.
Lindsey's essay was a personal narrative about how she came to gain her own testimony of the gospel. I knew the story already, but reading it in essay form gave it life. I felt what she had felt all those years ago. It reminded me of a similar story in our family, a story of a little boy, faith, and a prayer answered.
The little boy was our Eli, who was six years old. He was hands down our most spirited kid. After three relatively calm children, his energy and passion rocked our world in ways we had never imagined. This morning, when the Elders Quorum President spoke of his memories of FHE in his home as a child, he said, "It starts with a prayer and ends with somebody crying." Yep, that was exactly the case in our family although the one left crying was always me, clueless as to how to get Eli to settle down and listen, while trying to keep two young teenagers interested as they rolled their eyes as if to say "Why can't you control this kid, so we can get this over with?"
Even so, that six-year-old little boy was in the process of developing a faith, pure and simple, step by step. And one step happened as he learned about the power of prayer, just like Lindsey did while camping on a mountain. Back then, we lived in a house whose backyard came up against another family's, with no fence, and in that family, the oldest child was a boy right in between Isaiah and Eli in age. The three were fast and furious friends who were together more than they were apart.
One of their favorite things to do was to play video-games with a hand-held unit called a Nintendo Game Boy. Games for this console were tiny, 2-inch, flat squares. Seriously, the things were practically begging to be lost. The cost of each tiny square? Around $50, depending on the game. Isaiah and Eli traded games back and forth with Jordan, yes, I know, a very bad idea! You guessed it; they lost one of Jordan's games. Ugh! It became a family affair to find that tiny piece of plastic because with a single income and four little kids plus one on the way, we clearly did not have the resources to replace Jordan's $50 game.
We searched. Everywhere. We rummaged through drawers. We crawled around the floor on hands and knees. We moved furniture and swept underneath. No luck. Emotions were high and contention thick. And right in the middle of all that strife, our little Eli declared, "We need to have a family prayer." Gerald turned to me, out of earshot of the kids, and whispered, "I don't know about you, but I don't have that kind of faith."
"Me either," I replied, "but if our little boy wants to have a family prayer, that is exactly what we will do." In a quiet voice (he was rarely quiet), Eli offered a simple plea to his Heavenly Father to please help us find Jordan's game." We all said "Amen," opened our eyes, and not three feet from where I was standing, right in the middle of the floor in plain sight, was that game. And so began a young child's unwavering testimony of prayer.
Eli would go on to offer many more prayers in the 17 years that followed, and while most would not be answered as instantly as that one was, his testimony of prayer would sustain him through whatever came. He would go on to dedicate two years of his life in the deep south and endure sweltering heat, threat of tornadoes, and daily rejection in order to share with others the truth he knows so well and loves so much. He would go on to seek an eternal companion, who would go with him to the Holy Temple to make covenants with God and begin to build an eternal family of his own.
And he would go on to share the beautiful voice God gave him to bless others through song. He would sing for the elderly and for sick children. And for me.
Thank you, Lindsey, for your story of faith that touched my heart and stirred my memories. Thank you, Elders Quorum President, for your honest portrayal of the challenge and the joy of Family Home Evening. And thank you, Eli, for being you.
Tuesday, July 5, 2016
Fourth Family Fun (and other alliterative phrases to mark the day)
Because why not be alliterative if you get the chance?
Basic Bacon-less Breakfast
July marks five years since we moved here to Utah. In some ways, that makes me sad because five years is a pretty dang long time to still feel like such an outsider. The social scene here is hard to figure out. On the other hand, there is much to be grateful for, and one of those things is the "Celebrate Freedom Breakfast" that our stake hosts each year on the 4th of July. We attend every year, but this year, one significant component was conspicuously missing: bacon! That's right, in past years the breakfast included yummy bacon, but not this time. So Gerald, Shulamith, and I left Matt and Seth at home sleeping and joined others from our stake to feast on eggs, hash browns, and pancakes. Food was just "okay," but it was a good start to our happy Fourth.
Practically Perfect Parade
After breakfast, Shulamith and her kids and I embarked on a brave adventure: the 4th of July parade in South Jordan. We had left our chairs out along the parade route the night before and were overjoyed to find them still there waiting for us yesterday morning. Equipped with iced cold Diet Cokes and plenty of sunscreen, we sat in anxious anticipation.
Parades are super nostalgic for us. We spent 17 years living in quite small towns (six years in The Dalles, OR and eleven years in Mt. Vernon, WA). Small-town parades were the highlight of many holidays. I remember marching in a parade in The Dalles for State Senate Candidate Wayne Fawbush. Wayne carried Luke on his shoulders, and Gerald and I walked beside, carrying signs, pushing Shulamith in a stroller. Several years later, when Shulamith was a Mt. Vernon High School cheerleader, I remember waiting alongside the parade route for the MVHS float to pass by and the thrill of seeing her and the rest of the cheer squad on the float. Only a mom could be that excited over a float full of cheerleaders, but yep, that's me!
This was our first time trying a parade with Shulamith's two kids, and we didn't know what the outcome would be, but it really was practically perfect. It was super hot, but the cool breeze made that tolerable, despite how it wrecked havoc on my hair. The kids were happy; we were happy; it was good. We cheered for cops on motorcycles, scrambled to gather candy, and waved at princesses riding high on top of floats.
Naturally Necessary Naps
All this heat and parade fun made everyone tired, moms included. So after a quick lunch at JCW's (Love me those chicken strips!), we came home for naps all around, so both kids and mommies would be able to stay awake to watch fireworks at night. I only slept under an hour, but it was a good power nap, and I was ready to rock the rest of the day. Sleep has been challenging recently with my dumb anxiety acting up. My guess is a combination of events triggered this fairly severe response: Shulamith's struggles through all of May, a new garden hose that's really long and ugly, and the fact that I know four people who are currently dealing with cancer. Yes, four. Sheesh. Then I feel like such a horrible human being because these four people actually have cancer, and I don't. I just think I do. It's what Mathew calls "fake cancer." Can I just say it again: dumb, dumb anxiety!
Marvelous Mac-shack Meal
As we've established in other posts, all roads lead to the Macaroni Grill, especially on holidays when even one of my kids is working. Seth was scheduled at 5:30, so Gerald and I went in at 6:00. It was dead. I've been in that restaurant dozens (hundreds?) of times, but I'm not sure I've ever seen it so dead. We were one of maybe three tables. We enjoyed our chicken parmesan with alfredo sauce and visited with various familiar employees. It's rather surreal to see Seth working there; a Macaroni Grill legacy he is! I didn't know our server, but once he figured out who we were, he said the standard "You must be doing something right to raise so many amazing kids." Okay, perhaps he was working the tip schmooze (successfully, I might add), but still, it's always gratifying to hear people praise my five babies.
Fabulous Festive Fireworks
And before we knew it, the dark sky surrounded, and it was time to go watch fireworks. And again, the memories! We laid out our blankets on he lawn at Jordan High School and waited with all the others for the show to begin. It wasn't the most spectacular display I've ever seen. It was short and sort of medium-sized. Still, it was lovely and a great conclusion to the Fourth Family Fun!
Basic Bacon-less Breakfast
July marks five years since we moved here to Utah. In some ways, that makes me sad because five years is a pretty dang long time to still feel like such an outsider. The social scene here is hard to figure out. On the other hand, there is much to be grateful for, and one of those things is the "Celebrate Freedom Breakfast" that our stake hosts each year on the 4th of July. We attend every year, but this year, one significant component was conspicuously missing: bacon! That's right, in past years the breakfast included yummy bacon, but not this time. So Gerald, Shulamith, and I left Matt and Seth at home sleeping and joined others from our stake to feast on eggs, hash browns, and pancakes. Food was just "okay," but it was a good start to our happy Fourth.
Practically Perfect Parade
After breakfast, Shulamith and her kids and I embarked on a brave adventure: the 4th of July parade in South Jordan. We had left our chairs out along the parade route the night before and were overjoyed to find them still there waiting for us yesterday morning. Equipped with iced cold Diet Cokes and plenty of sunscreen, we sat in anxious anticipation.
Parades are super nostalgic for us. We spent 17 years living in quite small towns (six years in The Dalles, OR and eleven years in Mt. Vernon, WA). Small-town parades were the highlight of many holidays. I remember marching in a parade in The Dalles for State Senate Candidate Wayne Fawbush. Wayne carried Luke on his shoulders, and Gerald and I walked beside, carrying signs, pushing Shulamith in a stroller. Several years later, when Shulamith was a Mt. Vernon High School cheerleader, I remember waiting alongside the parade route for the MVHS float to pass by and the thrill of seeing her and the rest of the cheer squad on the float. Only a mom could be that excited over a float full of cheerleaders, but yep, that's me!
This was our first time trying a parade with Shulamith's two kids, and we didn't know what the outcome would be, but it really was practically perfect. It was super hot, but the cool breeze made that tolerable, despite how it wrecked havoc on my hair. The kids were happy; we were happy; it was good. We cheered for cops on motorcycles, scrambled to gather candy, and waved at princesses riding high on top of floats.
Naturally Necessary Naps
All this heat and parade fun made everyone tired, moms included. So after a quick lunch at JCW's (Love me those chicken strips!), we came home for naps all around, so both kids and mommies would be able to stay awake to watch fireworks at night. I only slept under an hour, but it was a good power nap, and I was ready to rock the rest of the day. Sleep has been challenging recently with my dumb anxiety acting up. My guess is a combination of events triggered this fairly severe response: Shulamith's struggles through all of May, a new garden hose that's really long and ugly, and the fact that I know four people who are currently dealing with cancer. Yes, four. Sheesh. Then I feel like such a horrible human being because these four people actually have cancer, and I don't. I just think I do. It's what Mathew calls "fake cancer." Can I just say it again: dumb, dumb anxiety!
Marvelous Mac-shack Meal
As we've established in other posts, all roads lead to the Macaroni Grill, especially on holidays when even one of my kids is working. Seth was scheduled at 5:30, so Gerald and I went in at 6:00. It was dead. I've been in that restaurant dozens (hundreds?) of times, but I'm not sure I've ever seen it so dead. We were one of maybe three tables. We enjoyed our chicken parmesan with alfredo sauce and visited with various familiar employees. It's rather surreal to see Seth working there; a Macaroni Grill legacy he is! I didn't know our server, but once he figured out who we were, he said the standard "You must be doing something right to raise so many amazing kids." Okay, perhaps he was working the tip schmooze (successfully, I might add), but still, it's always gratifying to hear people praise my five babies.
Fabulous Festive Fireworks
And before we knew it, the dark sky surrounded, and it was time to go watch fireworks. And again, the memories! We laid out our blankets on he lawn at Jordan High School and waited with all the others for the show to begin. It wasn't the most spectacular display I've ever seen. It was short and sort of medium-sized. Still, it was lovely and a great conclusion to the Fourth Family Fun!
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