Easter, 2012

I love holidays! I love big celebrations, complete with long-standing traditions, yummy food, and lots of people. Right now, though, much of our family is scattered about, making it difficult to get a large group together. Our extended family all live on the west coast. Luke and his family are in Indiana. Eli is in the MTC. And Isaiah, though right here in Salt Lake City, works double shifts every weekend at Macaroni Grill. So as you can see from the photo above, we didn't have a particularly large group for Easter. On the left are Shulamith, Mathew, and Kitty (with Baby Swen making his presence more and more obvious); in the center, Gerald, Seth and I; and on the right, Matt's parents, Dawn and Todd. I am so thankful to the Monsons (Matt's parents) for their willingness to share some of the holidays with us. It was a delightful afternoon.

Before they arrived, we went to church. Our choir did the entire Sacrament Meeting. That was way fun; I don't have a good singing voice, but I can blend with a choir so long as there's a strong alto beside me, and I thoroughly enjoyed participating. Gerald had hidden eggs early in the morning, so after church, we set Seth off to find all 18 of them. Keep in mind, Seth isn't used to sharing. He's been the "baby" for so long; no one else competes for eggs. Until this year. I should have predicted that Matt would want in on the action. The two of them raced to find the most, diving over furniture to beat each other to each highly-coveted egg. Fun times!

When the Monsons arrived, we began to prepare food around the theme "Easter breakfast buffet!" Dawn made a delicious egg, cheese, and potato casserole while Todd prepared Belgian waffles topped with strawberries and whipped cream. Matt made his famous french toast, using cinnamon bread from Kneader's and topped with Dawn's homemade maple syrup. Shulamith cooked bacon and scrambled eggs. I tried to stay out of the whole thing, ensuring that the meal would be delicious. And it was!

While we missed those who weren't with us, including Matt's brother Hayden, it was a fabulous Easter. Once again, we celebrate the resurrection of our Savior, whose infinite atonement makes possible that which would otherwise be impossible. "He is not here, for he is Risen!"

...But Sometimes It Hurts Instead

Most people these days are well familiar with recording artist, Adele, and especially her hit song "Someone Like You." It is one of Eli's favorites, so much so that he learned to play it on the piano and accompanied himself singing it last spring in Skyview's pops concert and again this fall for an audition at BYU-Idaho. He sings and plays it so well.

So today is a bit of a weepy day for me. What can I say? I'm not used to so limited contact with him. It's hard. Simple things catch me off guard, and I'm reduced to tears. It is a mother's job to cry at the MTC. Is it also her job to cry here and there afterward? I hope so. It happened this morning when I was putting in my contacts. You may remember that these dumb contacts have not been easy for me. I got them back in July, and I've experienced a love/hate relationship with them ever since. It took seven months and help from three different people (Matt, Gerald, and Eli) before I finally reached the point where I can get the things into my eyes each day. Oh, and in case you're wondering, no, I still don't see very well with them. But they do make it so I don't need stupid reading glasses that make me look way older than I really am, so they're worth the hassle.

As I was putting them in this morning, I had a flashback to when Eli was helping me. He stood in the bathroom with me for at least 20 minutes as I struggled to get them in. He watched carefully to try to determine what I was doing wrong. Ultimately, he suggested a different way of holding my eye open, and it helped a little. That, combined with Matt's and Gerald's suggestions, finally did the trick, but this morning, all I could think about was Eli. Remembering his patience and concern for me brought more tears.

Contacts in, I headed out for a walk, plugged in Pandora, and what do you think was the first song played? Of course! "Someone Like You." Ahhh. I went from tiny tears trickling down my face to full-scale bawling. I couldn't stop. I walked two miles, and once I had myself mostly together, I came home and checked the mailbox and found no letter from the MTC. What?! P-day was Monday, and in Eli's email he said he would be writing a snail mail letter right away. So why isn't it here by now? The MTC is just 30 miles south of us, and it's been three days. I was counting on that letter arriving today. More tears. More and more and more.

Yes, it's been a weepy day for sure. Tomorrow will be better, right?

"Don't forget me, I begged, I remember you said
Sometime it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead."

Puppies Are Not Kitties

One of my best friends in the whole world is named Hanna. She is three years old and very smart. She has great analytical skills, allowing her to sort out confusing things in her mind, and she is obviously much better at this than I am.

An example of this is the first time she met our dog, Kitty. Okay, yes, technically Kitty is Shulamith's dog, but she pretty much live upstairs with me, so I claim her. Anyway, the first time Hanna met Kitty, her little brain started spinning in order to make sense out of this most confusing situation. Finally, after much thought, she announced:

"Puppies are NOT kitties. And kitties are NOT puppies. But this Kitty is a puppy."

Yes, Hanna, you are right. If only I had listened to you. If I had listened and taken heed of Hanna's wisdom, this may not have happened. If you read that post, you know that over three weeks ago, Kitty jumped on me, and somehow caused an injury to my upper thigh that took three full weeks to heal! I'm not kidding. It swelled up so badly, that the insides of both my thighs were chapped from rubbing against each other when I walked. TMI? Too bad. I want you to understand the extent of my injury. It hurt so much that I was sure I was dying of some horrible disease. I sat with ice on it every evening, but it still took three weeks to heal.

And all this could have been avoided if only I had listened to Hanna. Puppies are not kitties. Kitties are lightweight, and when they jump on you, they land softly, causing no pain or suffering. Puppies, on the other hand...(especially this puppy)...are huge and heavy and can cause all kinds of damage to unsuspecting human thighs.

Puppies are NOT kitties. And kitties are NOT puppies. But this Kitty is a puppy. Thank you, Hanna. I will remember this always.

A Kind Man

Tomorrow is Easter. And Eli is in the MTC. Right where he should be. Absolutely. I will miss him, though. I was thinking today, "Who will hide the eggs and create the 'hunt' for Seth?" When you have children as spread out in age as we do, you have the joy of watching the older ones take over many such duties, not because they have to but because they want to. Eli loves hiding eggs for Seth, but this year, that duty will fall to Gerald and me. I know we can do it. We did it for the older four once upon a time. Back then, the trick was to somehow convince Luke and Shulamith to leave the "easy" finds for Isaiah and Eli and concentrate on the more carefully hidden eggs. "But it's right out in plain sight, Mom; why can't I take it?" Then there were the squabbles over who wound up with the most eggs, along with the frustrating scenario that seemed to happen every year: "I know we hid 24 eggs, but they only found 23. Where is that final egg?!?" Ah, back in the day.

Yesterday, one of my students gave me a poem he wrote while he was on his mission. I think he wanted me to have it in honor of the Easter season, but also because he knows Eli so recently left for the MTC. I'm sure most missionaries do feel as though they "walk a thousand miles a day, trying to remember what to say." And I'm sure they often feel "cast aside like a falling star." But like all the rest of us, they are strengthened and upheld by the Savior, whose glorious resurrection we celebrate tomorrow. "...he was bruised for our iniquities...and with his stripes we are healed" (Isaiah 53:5).

Please enjoy Terrell's poem:

A Kind Man

I walk a thousand miles a day

Trying to remember what to say.
Just looking back at how far,
Cast aside like a falling star.

Then a kind man picks me up,
That man who drank his Father's cup.
He heals me of my broken heart,
So that I can have a new start.

Find this man of whom I speak.
He seeks for all that are weak.
We can be made strong in his hand
To return to our Father's land.

by Terrell Hobby

Missionaries Don't Lie

Just in case any of you didn't believe me when I told you I'm a horrible cook, may I share just a portion of Eli's first letter from the MTC. And I quote...

"The food here is really not that bad at all. It's actually pretty good. Some kids say that their home-cooked meals from their moms are better. Sorry to say this, but I kinda disagree. Haha, you've always said yourself, though, that you're not too big on cooking."

So there you have it. Missionaries don't lie.

Tweens

There is a delightful group of people in the world who fit into the category of tweens. They are no longer little kids, yet they aren’t quite adolescents either. They are right inbe”tween.” Tweens are generally defined as kids ages 10 - 12, and let me tell you, they are seriously so much fun. Because of their recent ties to childhood, they make wonderful babysitters. They still know how to get down and dirty and really play; they’re not too cool for hide and seek or tag or thumb wars. They aren’t burdened with the hyper-sensitive, self-conscious issues that often dominate the teenage years, yet they are quite capable, responsible, and self-sufficient. Really, tweens are great. If you get the opportunity to befriend one, I highly recommend it.

One interesting thing about tweens is how they can morph, almost instantly and without warning, between their relatively mature personas and their not-so-mature ones. And it’s fine. It’s perfectly fine. They are just doing their jobs. It’s the tween’s job to move back and forth between childhood and adolescence. So one moment, your tween might be opening car doors for you, thanking you for the marvelous dinner you prepared, and offering to do extra chores around the house. But the next moment…well, let me share a TOTALLY hypothetical example to illustrate.

What if (hypothetically) you decided to take your tween to General Conference? He didn’t really want to go, but you insisted, knowing how lovely it would be for him to attend conference in the conference center and hear the general authorities speak in person, rather than just watching on TV. So you coax him out of bed and board the Trax train headed for Temple Square. He is unusually quiet, enough that you know he’s not happy, but other than that, all seems well. Then, after waiting for 20 minutes outside the conference center, you find out that you arrived too late. The conference center is full. What now?

You don’t like to miss conference. Ever. So instead of going home at that point, you decide to walk across the street to the Tabernacle and watch the session on the large screens provided there. Perfect! Well, except for the fact that your tween didn’t want to go in the first place, and now, he has to sit in a warm room on hard, wooden seats and watch conference on TV. But you don’t really think about that as you rush across the street and find a seat in the Tabernacle.

And it begins.

The tween temper tantrum of the century. What if this hypothetical tween happens to be a naturally hot individual, one who absolutely detests being too warm? And what if he doesn’t fully comprehend what is going on until he’s sitting on those hard seats in a very warm room with people all around breathing down his neck? Oh, it could be bad. So bad. Imagine him arching his back in the seat, kicking his legs straight out, and pulling his pant legs up as far as he can in order to keep cool. Imagine him violently rolling up his sleeves and slapping at his face as the tears stream down, then wiping the tears all over his arms. (Later you learn that this was a feeble attempt to use his tears to cool his arms.) Recognizing the need to remain relatively quiet (remember, he’s a tween, not a toddler), he mouths the words over and over, “IT’S SO HOT IN HERE. I CAN’T STAND IT!” with tears continuing to stream down his face.

And this hypothetical tantrum lasts a full hour. Seriously, one full hour. During the congregational hymn half way through the session, his adult sister takes him outside for a bit, and the situation improves somewhat.

So have no fear. He’s a tween, after all. He can switch back to a kind, sweet, mature kid instantaneously. And he does. About the time you get out of the warm Tabernacle headed toward the Trax, he’s back! It’s so great. There is a delightful group of people in the world who fit into the category of tweens. Hypothetically speaking or not, I’m so thankful to have one.

First Quarter Report

It is March 31st. The first quarter of 2012 is now behind us. April brings feelings of springtime; the Easter season; the promise of summer right around the corner; and for me, the end of the school year. Right now, I am buried under final essays, but April 11th is not so far away. Right? Though I only teach three hours, three days a week, all three of those hours are writing classes. And when the essays come pouring in, I can't help but ask myself what on earth I was thinking when I decided to go into this field. Surely there are other subjects I could teach? P.E., maybe? Or one of those classes where the tests are multiple choice and you use those very cool Scan Tron sheets. You feed them through the machine, one by one, and they come out the other side all graded. How would it be?

So instead of grading yet another essay (I've done five since second session of General Conference ended at 4:00, in addition to walking four miles), I decided to blog. Blogging is oh so much more fun than grading essays. That's not saying a lot because just about anything is more fun than grading essays, but stay with me here. I decided to report on the first quarter of 2012. What are the highlights of the last three months? How are the resolutions coming along?

Let's begin there. As you may remember, my goal is to walk 1,200 miles in 2012. That means I need to do at least 100 miles per month. So far that is coming along nicely. My miles for January, February, and March were 100.5, 102.91, and 103.62 respectively. Is it just me, or do those look like increasingly high fevers? Anyway, I'm happy to report success with this resolution. I'm even happier to report that I may have at least a part time walking partner. A woman from our ward expressed interest in walking and then texted me last Sunday evening, and we went. It was so great to have someone to talk to; the time flew by! Dana has a full time job, and she is also the Primary President, so obviously she doesn't have as much time to walk as I do. But even if she comes occasionally, I will be thrilled.

Okay, now for the other resolution. You remember, the one where I was going to try to cook at home more often? Yeah, about that. Not so much. Guys, this is just hard for me. Seth and I both prefer to eat in restaurants, and many nights it is just Seth and I. Sometimes we have Shulamith too, but she likes restaurants just as much as we do. And unfortunately, I find nothing in the entire cooking experience appealing. However! And this part is important. There's this other woman from our ward who loves to cook. She is seriously the very definition of "Molly." Shulamith and I were telling her about how we don't really cook, and she seemed utterly shocked. I told her I was trying to cook at least three weeknights in addition to Sunday but failing miserably, and she seemed even further shocked. So she has decided that she needs to help me out with this by improving my culinary skills. Well, they certainly do need improvement, and I'm so excited to have some sort of connection with people from the ward (even if it involves something boring like cooking) that I agreed. We decided to wait until next week to begin, giving me sufficient time to recover from the MTC drop-off.

And have I recovered? I don't know if I would say that, but I do have to say that I'm feeling tremendous peace. For one thing, we already received a letter from Eli!!! It came yesterday. He sounds so good, so happy, so enthusiastic, so Eli. How can I not feel the same? I have my moments, yes. I'll be going along with my normal activities, when suddenly it will hit me: Wait! He's not just at school. Or out with friends. Or at a piano lesson. Or at work. He's gone. For two whole years. And then there's this melancholic feeling that sinks through my body. But it only lasts a moment. Almost immediately, I remember one or another of the many kind words of support that my friends so lovingly offered me this past week. May I share some of them with you?

Sandra told me all would be well because "He's gonna be working for the Lord and he's a VERY generous boss!!!!" Indeed, Sandra.

Trudy told me to allow the Holy Ghost to bring me peace through the MTC experience. And I did. And he did!

Diane told me it is my calling as a mother to cry. That's one calling I'm really, really good at.

Both Celeste and Lindsey told me the they love me and that they were praying for me.

And Dawn reminded me how blessed we are for the opportunity to send a missionary. She said, "Both times that we dropped off our boys at the MTC there was such a feeling of relief, peace, and love. I know that part of it was the Spirit wrapping me in the promised peace. I would think of it being such a small thing for me to do compared to what Heavenly Father did letting each of us come to the Earth, and then letting his Son come down, knowing what he would have to face."

Do I have wonderful, supportive, and very smart friends or what?

So there we are, ready to begin the 2nd quarter of 2012. Ready to face the challenges, enjoy the blessings, and move toward summer with hope and joy.