We might do it late, but we do it merry!

 

I usually have a week between Christmas and New Year's to think up an idea for the Christmas blog post; draft it; revise, edit, and proofread; then publish. Not this year. For various reasons, we wound up celebrating Christmas Eve the night of Dec. 28th, followed by our Christmas Day celebration on the 29th. So I had only two days to write this. I want the Christmas 2024 post to publish in 2024 and be included in the 2024 blog book. Obviously.

So here I am, on Tuesday, Dec. 31st at 7:21 p.m. without an idea for a post. It's fine. 

Our Christmas celebration this year was very late, but it was just as merry as ever. We had Seth's girlfriend Kylee join us, and she is a delightful addition. The picture above is from our "Christmas Eve," after opening our matching t-shirts and just before playing a rousing game of "Left, Center, Right" (gambling, anyone?). It was neck and neck for a while, but ultimately Isaiah won all the money! After that, we began inflating air mattresses and settling in for our Christmas slumber party.

The next day was typical: presents, followed by food, followed by more more presents and more food. Rinse and repeat. Oh, what fun!

Since this is a makeshift post, without any real planning, it's gonna be brief. But I wanted to be sure the poem I wrote for our annual Christmas letter found its way into the blog, so I'm gonna paste it here:

An Erichsen-Webster Christmas Carol

2024

Oh the year has been crazy with this and with that,

But we all still love Christmas, well all except Matt.

What Matt likes instead is to ride on his bike

Over big, scary mountains, to Shulamith’s fright!

She tries to stay calm as she drives in her car

To dance and jujutsu and soccer afar!

When she’s not in her car, you might find her at school 

Teaching cute kindergartners to follow the rules.

At six every morning she lifts heavy weights,

Which I do as well, but just closer to eight.

I also walk miles and miles each day

And read books and write blog posts with so much to say.

I teach college students to write with strong voice,

But they’d rather use AI, a horrible choice!

There is little to do that will combat this fraud,

So I dream about airplanes and traveling abroad.

I didn’t get out of the country this year,

Gerald went to Cuba without any fear.

But passports in hand, we will get out in May,

Destination uncertain, somewhere far away!

Isaiah still travels as much as he can.

He loves all the countries, especially Japan.

He’s there right now, as a matter of fact.

With the tragic U.S. election, we pray he comes back!

Seth finished college, commencement last May,

Magna cum laude for high GPA. 

Planning for law school, perhaps this next fall,

Hanging out with his girlfriend and playing disc golf. 

Eli works hard at his job at D.I. 

Helping people learn skills to improve in their lives. 

But when he’s not working, movies are his vibe,

Blood, gore-filled slasher films, dead or alive!

He and Amanda are oft entertained,

Watching Bluey on repeat with three-year-old Jane.

Or sitting with her round the dining room table,

Playing “Pass the Parcel” as long as they’re able. 

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Amanda works remotely, her job to review

Student applications for the U. of U.

Swen does jujutsu; gray belt he defends!

He loves middle school and his many new friends.

Theodore treasures his Pokémon cards,

And trading with other kids in the schoolyard.

Kennedy lives to be on stage and dance!

This year she is “Ann” in The Little Princess. 

Luke enjoys trivia, competing with knowledge.

Evelyn’s a senior, applying to college. 

And right there you have it: the Erichsen-Webster revue,

Our own Christmas carol, created for you.

Love came down! 

May you feel His transforming love this Christmas season and always,

Terrianne, Gerald, and family

***Christmas, 2024 Photo Dump***

There's no place like home for the holidays!

"I met a girl who lived in Utah; she was headed for

Portland, Oregon and some Costco pecan pie! (She wanted pie!)"

IT'S ME! I'M THAT GIRL!

Five o'clock a.m. doesn't even feel early when you're headed home for the holidays. It's been years since I've been with my original family at this time of year, so when I landed at PDX early Saturday morning and realized my wish had been granted, I was thrilled. I had ordered four days of rain for the four days I would be there, and just look at the window from my seat on the airplane:

Raindrops. Those are raindrops right there. It rained the better part of all four days, and hardly anything could have made me happier. Except maybe the pecan pie. It is my favorite pie ever (Diana Smith Bennett, are you reading this????), but most people in my Utah family don't like it that much, and the one who does like it can't eat it anymore because of his recent Celiac diagnosis (Sorry, Matt). When I found out they got me a pecan pie, I was seriously stoked; that, combined with beautiful rain---does life get any better?

Tom picked me up at the airport, and we drove to my hotel, where we quickly dropped off my stuff before going to his house. That night was the family Christmas celebration, a giant bash with amaaaaazing food, fun, and festivities. My favorite part was spending time with two of my nieces and their families and meeting Leslie's dog. He is such a nice dog that I had to take his picture:

My hotel had a great gym, so the next morning I was able to work out, which felt amazing after eating way too much food the night before:

Then I picked up my mom, and we met my niece Carley and her cute son for lunch at Olive Garden. So fun to visit and catch up with her. The rest of the day I spent with my mom, first pedicures, then the mall to grab a few final Christmas presents. My friend Lorrie came all the way from Vancouver to meet up with us, and as always, so good to spend time with her. I am lucky to have friends from all four of the "friendship levels": acquaintances, casual friends, close friends, and lifelong friends. Of the five people I would call "lifelong friends," Lorrie is the one I've known the longest. Since I was 13. What a blessing she is in my life!

We went home that night to delicious leftovers from dinner the night before: turkey, ham, mashed potatoes, stuffing and gravy, mac & cheese, garlic-buttered green beans, and of course...more pecan pie! Up till that point, things had gone according to plan. But the next morning, a twist of mortality occurred. 

Both my brother and my mom woke up with the flu!

Eeeeek! I always say that I have a steel immune system because I so rarely get sick, and I'm praying it's true. I have much to do for both tomorrow and our family's Christmas celebration Dec. 28-29. It wouldn't be at all convenient for me to be sick.

At the moment, I feel great! I'm sitting in the Portland airport, eating Chex mix and drinking Diet Coke, early for my 6:30 p.m. flight home. I decided I may as well limit my exposure to the "sickos" and come hang out here. Now if only I could walk; my abysmal daily step count is registering a measly 2,824 steps. But with a suitcase packed with presents and my mom's famous Chex mix, along with a carry-on, purse, and heavy coat, I really can't. Instead, I'll just listen to my latest audio book - my first Stephen King novel: 11/22/63. It's SO good!

Even though it didn't end quite the way we hoped, it was a good trip, and I'm glad I came. It will be July before I return and see everyone again. 

"Oh, there's no place like home for the holidays

'Cause no matter how far away you roam

If you want to be happy in a million ways

For the holidays, you can't beat home, sweet home."

Love Languages and Sacred Days

"Mine's Acts of Service"

"Mine's Quality Time."

"Mine's Physical Touch."

Most of us need only to hear such declarations to know the reference: Gary Chapman's iconic book The 5 Love Languages, published over 20 years ago. I've always sorta felt left out, like the author failed to include mine. If I had to choose from his five, I suppose I'd say "Words of Affirmation." With performance anxiety, it's helpful to hear that I'm doing okay. However, without question my genuine love language is loyalty, and that one didn't even make his list. To feel truly loved, I need to know that my friends are on my side, ready to stand up for me in any situation, against any criticism or opposing force. They are never neutral; they always have my back. And that one doesn't fit into any of Chapman's five.

It's fine. He obviously didn't write the book for me. That said, he was close on another one: Receiving Gifts. Except it's the opposite for me. While I enjoy receiving gifts as much as the next person, I wouldn't call it my love language. But the opposite? Giving gifts? Yes. That is it. Which is why Black Friday is a sacred day for me. Right up there with Christmas and the last day of every semester. Sacred, I tell you.

Last year, when I posted about Black Friday, I titled the post "It's okay. It will come again and again." And it did! So much quicker than we expected. 

I set my alarm for 6:45 a.m., though there was no need; I was wide awake at 5:00, too excited to sleep longer. I lay in bed for an hour dreaming of all the great sales we would find and how we would delight in every perfect gift. Dressed in warm, comfy clothes and shoes, with "Winter Wonderland" playing loud and proud, I drove around the corner and picked up Shulamith at 6:59 a.m. We drove through Starbucks for our annual hot chocolate, followed by Chick-fil-a to fill up our Stanleys with fresh Diet Coke, and headed to Sandy Target. We were ready. We were set. It was go time!

We were in Target around three hours and found so much good stuff! Of course, I can't tell you what any of that stuff is, because it's highly classified Christmas information, but trust me; it's crazy good stuff. Oh I can tell you one thing, so you don't feel totally left out. We found super cute maxi dresses for ourselves, mine in black and Shulamith's in black/white stripes. About an hour in, we wandered upon our Black Friday Target friends, the Combe Family! Sandy, Jen, Whitney, and Kelsey were there as they always are, a constant in our Black Friday lives. Yes, we see all of them once a month at Bunco, but this is different. Thank you, Combes, for showing up for us. We left Target around 10:30 with our haul and drove to Fashion Place mall.

Fashion Place brings all the feels, with memories dating back to 2004-2008, when Shulamith was in college, and I'd fly down from Billings to visit her. Hangin' at the mall while she worked across the street at Macaroni Grill. Shopping for my dress for her wedding and finding it at the Black & White store. To this day that dress hangs in my closet, and I love it. But guess what??? My book group just announced that the dress standard for our annual Christmas party will be "formalwear." Yes! I'm totally wearing that dress! 

We took a break for lunch at Cheesecake Factory, and then went right back to our shopping frenzy. So many stores at Fashion Place and so many great presents!  Again, I can't tell you about them, but not to worry. I'll fill in all the blanks eventually in my Christmas post! 

We did just two more stops to round out our Black Friday 2024: Hobby Lobby and Walmart. We found a few things, but that will be the last time I shop at either of these stores in the foreseeable future. I recently learned that both donated considerable funds to the Trump campaign, and I understand the assignment. In the next four years I will seek out as many ways as possible to resist; I will not stay silent. And my first step is boycotting businesses that donated to that man's campaign.

With my minivan filled to the brim, we headed home. Hardly anything brings me more joy than finding just the right Christmas gifts for my five kids. And this may have been the most productive Black Friday in our Black Friday history!

But the sacred day ended. As they all do. I'm already excited for next year. 

I can't post about Black Friday until I finish October!

Yes, I know. I'm woefully behind. This has been the semester from hell, but it's almost over, and I am catching up on life. Especially blogging! And I can't write about our killer Black Friday yesterday until I finish up October, so here you go...

I wrote about General Conference. And I wrote about my shared birthday with Vice President Kamala Harris. Then, the month got away from me as I faced mid-semester writing projects from students in all eight of my classes. But October did not end with my birthday on the 20th. Not at all.

On October 26th, Eli and Amanda hosted their annual Halloween bash, once again a glowing success! We ate way too many treats, guessed how many pieces of candy were in a jar, and threw marshmallows at each other, but the highlight is always the famous mummy wrap.

Three days later on the 29th, Eli and Amanda's baby girl turned 3 years old. Happy birthday, Jane! They had a party for her earlier in the month. 

On her actual birthday, I hung our at their house and watched her open presents, well mostly watched; I fell asleep for part it (very long day), but woke up in time to see her open my present (clothes). After eight or nine toys, Jane's only comment on the two dresses and a pants outfit: "I don't like this stuff." All in all, we loved celebrating Jane, who is a happy, smart, and utterly hilarious three-year-old.

Finally, Halloween! I had class way up at the U. of Utah main campus that evening, so I was late getting back to the trick-or-treating festivities. Shulamith's kids were all off with their friends, so she and I tagged along with Eli and Amanda and Jane, who was fully committed to gathering as much candy as she possibly could, despite the freezing cold.

October is usually my favorite month. This year it came and went, and I felt like I was only barely above drowning. Most days, I wasn't sure I would come out the other side. But I did. With less than a week remaining in the semester, I know I will finish, and it feels so good. 

So while October and November were chaotic, December is gonna be bliss!

(Stay tuned for the report on what was possibly the most productive Black Friday in the history of Terrianne and Shulamith. For real.)

Triage: Stop the bleeding!

Me: I'm not gonna make it. I can't get this all done. There is no way. I'm probably gonna die.

Shulamith: You say that every semester.

Me: No, this is different.

Shulamith: You say that too.

Me: NO!! This time is totally different!

And it has been. The picture above is my desk in my home office, where I work most days. This revolving triage list is designed to prioritize the most urgent things I should be doing at every moment. With two weeks remaining in the semester, only in the past couple days have I felt confident that I will, indeed, finish it alive. Just before the semester began, I accepted a one-year, temporary, full-time position at SLCC. While I suspended teaching at UVU (with the promise from them that I can return next fall), I kept my three U. of Utah classes for two reasons. First, my new position at SLCC is a temporary, one-year contract. I have zero guarantee that it will renew in the fall, and it has nothing to do with me or my qualifications or performance, but solely with department needs and student enrollment. We have two full-time faculty on sabbatical this year, and they will return in the fall. There is no way to know how that could affect my temporary position. Second, the U. of Utah pays head and shoulders better than the other two schools. It's hard to turn down that kind of income.

It's been wild ride these past 3.5 months. Yikes! I have five classes at SLCC and three at the U. So many students. So many emails. So many essays! Plus the department meetings and tasks that are required in a full-time position. I will have a full month off beginning Dec 5th, before the chaos starts all over again, and I am crazy excited! I'm gonna play so hard, hurkle-durkle in my bed and binge TV, read every single thing that is not a college essay, take naps, walk miles and miles, and not even log onto Canvas or Outlook! I will sleep. So much sleep, uninterrupted by anxiety dreams about ridiculous stuff I'm convinced I was supposed to do and didn't. Once I even dreamed that I was supposed to teach one of my classes a dance routine but forgot. 

My break is still two weeks out...

Meanwhile, I'll keep on keepin' on. A few things have kept me almost sane, and I'll cling to those right till the end. Most significantly, my commitment to practicing self care. That means eating well, maintaining at least a minimal social life, and exercising. I'm blessed to have my best friend just out my back door and left 100 steps; two of my sons, plus bonus kid Amanda, 5-7 minutes away, another son in downtown SLC; and Emily up in Sandy. All these guys have kept me going, and I'm so grateful to each of them in different ways. Finally, through it all, I've stayed dedicated to regular exercise: 10,000+ steps a day, strength-training 4-5 days a week, including one morning a week at Courtney's 6:00 a.m. circuit class. I really believe exercise has made all the difference.

What has suffered most and what I've missed most notably is my regular blogging. It's more than just a hobby; for me, writing is therapy. Since the semester began, I've written only six blog posts, four on itslegs and two on my church blog. That is positively pathetic, considering how prolific the blog typically is. But something had to give, and that was it. 

Other than my birthday and General Conference, I missed the events of October altogether, so I'll be writing about those in a second post later today or tomorrow. I'm taking a tiny break to catch up before all the final writing projects start pouring in. 

So look for a new itslegs post right on top of this one! Hooray!

The worst part of all was seeing my kids so sad!

They say a mother is only ever as happy as her saddest child. 

It's true.

So as heartsick as I felt Tuesday night, the worst part of all was seeing my kids so sad. We all had so much hope. Eight years ago, when Donald J. Trump won the presidency the first time, I wrote this. I didn't like him. He had shown no decency; he had earned no respect. I had listened to his spiteful, venomous rhetoric throughout the campaign, his hatred toward our Muslim sisters and brothers and our hard-working Mexican immigrants; his excessive greed, his p***y-grabbing, outright distain for women. 

Still, at that point I didn't know what he was truly capable of. 

We..... didn't know. 

Now, we know. 

We watched as he stole one SCOTUS nominee from President Obama, winding up with three in total, who then turned the clock back 50 years on women's rights, freedom, and healthcare. We watched as he called those of us who disagree with his policies "the enemy from within," seeking to further divide an already polarized nation. We watched as he separated children from their families at our southern border, while trying to block all Muslims from entering the country. He is a 78-year-old convicted felon who was found liable for sexual assault! He refused to leave office peacefully when he lost the 2020 election to President Joe Biden, fueling a violent attack on the U.S. Capitol in order to stop the electoral vote-counting. He is currently under indictment on several different counts. 

And he told us during his recent campaign that he would be a "dictator" on Day 1. 

Now, we know. 

Now, we've elected him to a second term of office. 

And now, we have no excuse.

Be clear. Dictatorial tyranny is not just something we hear about in countries far away; the United States is not immune. Trump told us what he'll do. If we deliver this man a full trifecta, he's gonna do whatever he pleases, without constraint. Pray hard we don't lose the House. 

My family has been in varying stages of grief the past three days, fear for what lies ahead but also regret for what we gave up. We had such a good, good alternative. Kamala Harris and Tim Walz ran a fabulous campaign. Unlike their opponents, they sought to strengthen and unify people, to lift the discouraged, to hear the unheard, and to gather the isolated. I'm confident they would have made a wonderful President and Vice President, and we would have felt the impact of their strong, positive leadership for generations. 

Thank you, Kamala and Tim. I will never forget you. I will never forget the spirit of your campaign or how it made me feel inside. In the final days, Tim Walz asked supporters to consider a conversation they might have decades from now, when someone asks them what they did in the 2024 election to ensure an outcome that preserved democracy and promised hope, love, and joy. And our answer would be, "Every damn thing we could!"

Well that's what you did, Kamala and Tim! You ran relentlessly. You never stopped fighting. You never stopped reaching out. You never gave up on the core values you believe in. And though in the end, it wasn't enough, though in the end the American people preferred a rapist and convicted felon whose presence brings only anger, fear, and sadness, please know this....

You did every damn thing you could.

Happy birthday, Vice President Harris......(and me!)

I spent my 10th birthday with my grandparents in Eugene, Oregon, celebrating with U.S. Senator Wayne Morse. My grandfather was the president of the International Woodworkers of America, a labor union representing lumbermen, sawmill workers, and timber transportation workers throughout the United States and Canada. In this role, he met and became close friends with Senator Morse before I was born, so it was a happy surprise for both of them when I arrived on October 20th, sharing a birthday with Senator Morse. 

Vice President Kamala Harris shares that same birthday. I don’t know Vice President Harris personally like I did Senator Morse, but I’m proud to share a birthday with her. My mail-in ballot arrived yesterday. I haven’t had time to fill it out yet, but when I do, with so much hope and joy, I will cast my vote for Kamala Harris and Tim Walz to be the next President and Vice President of the United States. If Senator Morse or my very cool grandpa were still alive, they would do the same.

Vice President Harris is kind. She is respectful and gracious. She is strong and eloquent and doesn’t back down when challenged. She is a smart, capable leader, whose vision for our nation is positive and hopeful. I trust her to put the good of the people ahead of her own desires because that’s what patriots do. Their focus is outward, not self-centered. 

My youngest child, Seth, shares a birthday on June 14th with another politician, ironically, the other candidate for president. I have apologized to Seth for this. I told him that, although I do prefer to wait for labor to begin naturally, if I’d had any idea back in the year 2000 the havoc this man would ultimately wreak on our country, I would have insisted on being induced a week early. Sorry, Seth! 

As Election Day approaches, now only 16 days away, my feelings grow more intense, intensely excited by the prospect of a Harris/Walz administration. These last four years have been so refreshing under President Biden, as he got up each morning, dug in, and did his job. And he did it well, for sure the most effective president of my lifetime. Without any scandals or middle-of-the-night tweets attacking people he doesn’t like, he just slept. Like a normal person. Then got up the next day and went back to work. That leadership style sought to unite rather than divide us, and that will undoubtedly be the goal of Kamala Harris as well. 

I’m also nervous. Really nervous. This election is far from decided. It promises to be another nail-biter, and we may not know the outcome when we go to bed the night of November 5th. Still, I know a few things for sure. 

I’m reminded of the 1992 election. President George W. Bush (senior), the incumbent, was defeated by Bill Clinton. Was that the outcome President Bush desired? Of course not! I’ll bet it was one of the saddest, most disappointing nights of his life. But you know what? You know what he did? When it became clear he had lost, President Bush made that phone call, the one honorable leaders have been making for decades. He called Bill Clinton on the phone to congratulate him on his victory and to wish him well. Then, on his last day in the White House, he left a handwritten letter to President Clinton on his desk in the Oval Office. That letter ended with the words, “I’m rooting hard for you!” Because he was! Patriots always put the good of the country over their own selfish desires. 

I did not support President Bush (either of them, actually). Their visions for the nation were far different from mine. I voted for their opponents in every single election they were part of. But I surely respect President Bush (senior) for accepting defeat with honor and thereby ensuring a peaceful and respectful transfer of power. 

You can be sure that if tragedy happens and Vice President Harris loses the election, she will make that phone call. She will make it. Because decency and democracy and the peaceful transfer of power are part of her core values, non-partisan values that make our nation what it is. She will put those values ahead of her ego, her selfishness, and her disappointment. And clearly, she will not stage an insurrection to attack and attempt to overthrow the Capitol just two months later. She will not stand by watching the chaos on TV, as her armed supporters violently attack police officers. Of that, you can be sure.

If she is elected, not everything will go as she hopes. It never does, and that’s actually a good thing because a balance of power is central to our democracy (though nothing would please me more than to deliver her a trifecta win). Regardless, I believe she will do all she can to restore women’s access to life-saving healthcare and to resurrect the bipartisan border bill that Trump had his minions shut down. 

 

Even more importantly, she will behave with decency and honor, reflecting the values critical for a person who holds the highest office in the land. She is not a convicted felon. She is not a rapist. She does not mock the disabled or make up ridiculous stories about Haitian refugees eating pets! She also isn’t delusional. She never decides to stop answering questions at rallies, in favor of standing up on the stage, swaying back and forth for half an hour, while “Ave Maria” plays in the background.

So Happy Birthday, Vice President Harris! I’m honored to share this day with you. I believe your birthday wish is the same as mine. Let’s make it happen Nov. 5th.